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So here we are, a few weeks into the new school year.
Jaysen is still having a little bit of a rough time, but he usually doesn't settle in until mid-October anyway. He's had some trouble with "bullies" again this year. The issue being that at this school, all of the kids there have some social-struggle of one kind or another. Jaysen has to learn to be tolerant of other's differences, just as we want others to be of his. This is not an easy concept.
Rylan is settling in, but I'm noticing how bad his anxiety truly is.
No thanks to me and SH#2. We're both anxiety messes.
I supppose the positive side there is, I am able to make sense of his anxiety. I know it well. Hopefully, I can be supportive enough in the right ways, that he doesn't end up in a jacket that hugs him back, later in life.
The rest of the fam is great-
I don't want to write about them too much, without their permission, but we're good.
Things are good.
Showing posts with label School. Show all posts
Showing posts with label School. Show all posts
Thursday, October 5, 2017
Tuesday, September 12, 2017
Tuesday, September 5, 2017
AIM High!
First day of school here.
Usually this means I have not slept, and have probably gotten this far in my day on klonopin and coffee.
However-
Jaysen started a new school last year.
Ugh.I Know! ANOTHER NEW SCHOOL?!?!?
Yes. And this one is amazeballs.
Like bring tears to your eyes, amazeballs.
Like smack-yo-momma, make you cry, amazeballs.
I was going to keep the name of this school anon as well, but it really does deserve recognition.
AIM High is a school for kids like mine. Maybe like yours. But really, all kids would benefit from education like this.
It has literally changed his life.
And mine.
AIM is designed for kids on the Spectrum.
I was freaked out because as a private school, they "don't do" IEP's. ACK!
In fact, there is not one Special Education teacher on staff! Not one! *cue arrhythmia and sweating*
It was explained to me that they don't need those things. The teachers (and ancillary staff) are so freaking compassionate, this is their passion in life. They don't need IEP's because the whole building is an accommodation. The way the days are laid out and the class sizes (averaging 6-10 students per class!), the individualized instruction, the support of the entire staff, and student body...it's honestly more like a huge family.
But education is still paramount. They use an evidence based education model. They have a full curriculum with core academics as prescribed by the MMC. They have electives. They have a band. They teach life skills. They teach social skills.You can get an actual diploma and they assist in transition planning like college visits, ACT prep, and job internships. And if the student is not college-bound, they have a 5th year option for dual enrollment at a post secondary school.
They do not give up on these kids.
*Squeeeeeeeeeeee!*
The suck side is it is a tuition-based private school, and VERY expensive.
I cannot afford this school, even with financial aid. ShittyEx has agreed per decree, to a minimal contribution of less than 1/4 of expenses (Gee, thanks).
I will do everything in my power to keep Jaysen at this school, and continue to do so with the help of my family. He is absolutely worth every penny.
The principal disclosed to me, after our first year was coming to a close-
This school was created for kids like Jaysen.
Kids who are lost in the public schools despite the "support and services" they received.
Kids whom the public schools failed, and as a result, do not have an educational foundation to draw on.
He told me he was warned about Jaysen. Did he really want to take him on?? He's a lot of trouble, aggressive, "not teachable". He is "volatile" and a "behavior problem". Good luck with that kid.
The principal wanted to take a chance on him anyway. He ain't no sissy.
A few months in, he admitted to me that Jaysen was nothing like the prior administration described. He found Jaysen to be sweet, polite, eager, hardworking...Yes, he needed help with self-regulation and managing his frustrations, but he had made so many improvements in that area already.
There were no meltdowns last year.
There were no faking sick days.
There were no tears or arguments.
There was no frustration with homework, because they do their homework after "regular school", with teacher support. I know, right?!?!?
Jaysen actually learned stuff, guys. Not only that, but he learned, retained, and applied stuff!
He was excited for school to start again this year, and that has NEVER happened.
Best.School.Ever.
AIM High School
We love this place.
Usually this means I have not slept, and have probably gotten this far in my day on klonopin and coffee.
However-
Jaysen started a new school last year.
Ugh.I Know! ANOTHER NEW SCHOOL?!?!?
Yes. And this one is amazeballs.
Like bring tears to your eyes, amazeballs.
Like smack-yo-momma, make you cry, amazeballs.
I was going to keep the name of this school anon as well, but it really does deserve recognition.
AIM High is a school for kids like mine. Maybe like yours. But really, all kids would benefit from education like this.
It has literally changed his life.
And mine.
AIM is designed for kids on the Spectrum.
I was freaked out because as a private school, they "don't do" IEP's. ACK!
In fact, there is not one Special Education teacher on staff! Not one! *cue arrhythmia and sweating*
It was explained to me that they don't need those things. The teachers (and ancillary staff) are so freaking compassionate, this is their passion in life. They don't need IEP's because the whole building is an accommodation. The way the days are laid out and the class sizes (averaging 6-10 students per class!), the individualized instruction, the support of the entire staff, and student body...it's honestly more like a huge family.
But education is still paramount. They use an evidence based education model. They have a full curriculum with core academics as prescribed by the MMC. They have electives. They have a band. They teach life skills. They teach social skills.You can get an actual diploma and they assist in transition planning like college visits, ACT prep, and job internships. And if the student is not college-bound, they have a 5th year option for dual enrollment at a post secondary school.
They do not give up on these kids.
*Squeeeeeeeeeeee!*
The suck side is it is a tuition-based private school, and VERY expensive.
I cannot afford this school, even with financial aid. ShittyEx has agreed per decree, to a minimal contribution of less than 1/4 of expenses (Gee, thanks).
I will do everything in my power to keep Jaysen at this school, and continue to do so with the help of my family. He is absolutely worth every penny.
The principal disclosed to me, after our first year was coming to a close-
This school was created for kids like Jaysen.
Kids who are lost in the public schools despite the "support and services" they received.
Kids whom the public schools failed, and as a result, do not have an educational foundation to draw on.
He told me he was warned about Jaysen. Did he really want to take him on?? He's a lot of trouble, aggressive, "not teachable". He is "volatile" and a "behavior problem". Good luck with that kid.
The principal wanted to take a chance on him anyway. He ain't no sissy.
A few months in, he admitted to me that Jaysen was nothing like the prior administration described. He found Jaysen to be sweet, polite, eager, hardworking...Yes, he needed help with self-regulation and managing his frustrations, but he had made so many improvements in that area already.
There were no meltdowns last year.
There were no faking sick days.
There were no tears or arguments.
There was no frustration with homework, because they do their homework after "regular school", with teacher support. I know, right?!?!?
Jaysen actually learned stuff, guys. Not only that, but he learned, retained, and applied stuff!
He was excited for school to start again this year, and that has NEVER happened.
Best.School.Ever.
AIM High School
We love this place.
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Um....yeah
*Sigh*
It must be my curse in life, to not be able to laugh at hilariously funny shyt.
Case in point:
Jaysen got in trouble in school. Again.
When I went to school to pick him up, I asked him why he had to apologize to his teacher (who just happens to be very bright eyed, young, cute, peppy, etc.).
He said he called her a name.
I asked him what he called her.
He hesitated, and finally said,
"Mom.......I called her........a sausage."
*blink blink*
I couldn't do anything but stare at him with this crazy look on my face, trying to suck my lower lip into my mouth, chewin' on it like the last supper, so I didn't bust out laughing.
What made it worse, is he saw my face, and kept telling me "mom, it's not funny", while he's trying to keep a straight face too.
Oy.
Possibly related:
Monday, February 4, 2013
Decisions.
Head spinning....make it stop....
I have to make a decision.
I have to make a decision, and come to some terms I don't know that I'm ready to come to terms with just yet.
It's looking like next year, Jaysen will be moving into the self-contained, EI (emotionally impaired) classroom.
Ugh.
Okay, that wasn't too bad...
Here's what's going on.
The Autism Consultant explained it that Jaysen's educational predicament is unique because he has one foot in each program. He doesn't fit in total SpEd, but doesn't fit in GenEd either. Currently, Jaysen is struggling with mainstreaming. His behavior is impeding his classroom time, and that in turn is impeding his learning time.
Bottom line is despite everyone saying he is academically capable, Jaysen is having difficulty in the large, fast-paced, GenEd setting. We can say he's not getting the right supports, but honestly, he's in 6th grade. How long am I going to fight for different supports, only to have yet another year wasted away? He works really well in small group or 1:1. He does awesome, in fact. He learns best when the instructions or assignment can be "chunked" and presented in a different way. GenEd isn't structured to do that.
The self-contained class I visited at the middle school was pretty promising. I really liked the teacher, and he seemed to be focused on the student's education. The teacher, being EI certified, is used to dealing with explosive behaviors, and won't necessarily take them personally, but might be able to help Jaysen work through and process them.
What sealed the deal for me though, was the promise that even in the self-contained classroom, Jaysen will still progress forward in the GenEd curriculum, and maintain on a diploma-bound track.
This is HUGELY important to me/us right now.
Jaysen wants to go to college. He wants to be a kindergarten teacher.
In reality- do I know that he will or won't go to college? No, nobody knows that at this point. He's in 6th grade. But my point to the Team was, in 6th grade, it's far too early to close that door for good. They agreed, and assured me he would, at this point, remain diploma-bound.
In a nutshell:
(negatives)
Jaysen will not be mainstreamed. He will be removed from GenEd and placed in SpEd full time.
He would have little to no contact with the GenEd population.
He would be in in a classroom with kids that generally have moderate-severe behavior problems (red flag to possible increase Jaysen's aggression)
If he and the teacher don't "click", too bad, it's the only teacher he'll have for the next 2 years.
(positives)
Super small class size. This year, there are 2 students.
He will remain on diploma-bound grade level curriculum.
The teacher would be able to present information in different ways, so Jaysen better understands what's expected.
He could work at his own pace, and teaching would be more individualized (Y'know, like the I in IEP?).
When I discussed this with Jaysen, he seemed apprehensive about going to a new school at first. I asked him his thoughts about the bigger GenEd classroom this year, vs the smaller Resource Room, where he had basically been all year last year as his main room. He did say he liked the smaller RR better.
I'm a stressed out fracking mess, because once the motion is accepted, I am basically signing off on him saying "General Education does not work for my son".
And I am coming to terms that, y'know, it just doesn't. And that's okay.
It is okay, right?
Yes, it is okay.
Send booze.
Okay?
I have to make a decision.
I have to make a decision, and come to some terms I don't know that I'm ready to come to terms with just yet.
It's looking like next year, Jaysen will be moving into the self-contained, EI (emotionally impaired) classroom.
Ugh.
Okay, that wasn't too bad...
Here's what's going on.
The Autism Consultant explained it that Jaysen's educational predicament is unique because he has one foot in each program. He doesn't fit in total SpEd, but doesn't fit in GenEd either. Currently, Jaysen is struggling with mainstreaming. His behavior is impeding his classroom time, and that in turn is impeding his learning time.
Bottom line is despite everyone saying he is academically capable, Jaysen is having difficulty in the large, fast-paced, GenEd setting. We can say he's not getting the right supports, but honestly, he's in 6th grade. How long am I going to fight for different supports, only to have yet another year wasted away? He works really well in small group or 1:1. He does awesome, in fact. He learns best when the instructions or assignment can be "chunked" and presented in a different way. GenEd isn't structured to do that.
The self-contained class I visited at the middle school was pretty promising. I really liked the teacher, and he seemed to be focused on the student's education. The teacher, being EI certified, is used to dealing with explosive behaviors, and won't necessarily take them personally, but might be able to help Jaysen work through and process them.
What sealed the deal for me though, was the promise that even in the self-contained classroom, Jaysen will still progress forward in the GenEd curriculum, and maintain on a diploma-bound track.
This is HUGELY important to me/us right now.
Jaysen wants to go to college. He wants to be a kindergarten teacher.
In reality- do I know that he will or won't go to college? No, nobody knows that at this point. He's in 6th grade. But my point to the Team was, in 6th grade, it's far too early to close that door for good. They agreed, and assured me he would, at this point, remain diploma-bound.
In a nutshell:
(negatives)
Jaysen will not be mainstreamed. He will be removed from GenEd and placed in SpEd full time.
He would have little to no contact with the GenEd population.
He would be in in a classroom with kids that generally have moderate-severe behavior problems (red flag to possible increase Jaysen's aggression)
If he and the teacher don't "click", too bad, it's the only teacher he'll have for the next 2 years.
(positives)
Super small class size. This year, there are 2 students.
He will remain on diploma-bound grade level curriculum.
The teacher would be able to present information in different ways, so Jaysen better understands what's expected.
He could work at his own pace, and teaching would be more individualized (Y'know, like the I in IEP?).
When I discussed this with Jaysen, he seemed apprehensive about going to a new school at first. I asked him his thoughts about the bigger GenEd classroom this year, vs the smaller Resource Room, where he had basically been all year last year as his main room. He did say he liked the smaller RR better.
I'm a stressed out fracking mess, because once the motion is accepted, I am basically signing off on him saying "General Education does not work for my son".
And I am coming to terms that, y'know, it just doesn't. And that's okay.
It is okay, right?
Yes, it is okay.
Send booze.
Okay?
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Got math?
I'm sensing a theme here.
You all know my math skills suck. I could try to sugar coat it, but really...they just suck.
And I'm okay with that, because I am able to conjugate verbs, spell, and grammarize (yes, grammarize) circles around most people. That being said...
I work for the CFO of my company.
He's actually pretty awesome, but he's a "numbers" guy. I swear there are times we have full conversations and neither one of us understands the other.
He also likes to tease me about my lack of mathematical skill, and purposely asks me questions he knows I don't know the answer to because he finds some kind of sadistic joy in it, I imagine.
Anyway....
In helping Jaysen in his math homework last night, I realize yet again, that my kid rocks.
Example: Jaysen is working on converting fractions, to decimals, to percentages.
Jaysen: I butt-hundred it.
Me: Butt-hundred it?
Jaysen: Yes, you have to butt-hundred it!
Me: Hahahaha! What in the world is butt-hundred?
Jaysen: Look...
And there you go.
My boss will be so proud of me.
You all know my math skills suck. I could try to sugar coat it, but really...they just suck.
And I'm okay with that, because I am able to conjugate verbs, spell, and grammarize (yes, grammarize) circles around most people. That being said...
I work for the CFO of my company.
He's actually pretty awesome, but he's a "numbers" guy. I swear there are times we have full conversations and neither one of us understands the other.
He also likes to tease me about my lack of mathematical skill, and purposely asks me questions he knows I don't know the answer to because he finds some kind of sadistic joy in it, I imagine.
Anyway....
In helping Jaysen in his math homework last night, I realize yet again, that my kid rocks.
Example: Jaysen is working on converting fractions, to decimals, to percentages.
He explains how he has to divide 70 by 100 to get the decimal.
And then...
Me: Awesome job! Now how did you make the decimal a percent?
Jaysen: I butthundred it.
Me: You...what?Jaysen: I butt-hundred it.
Me: Butt-hundred it?
Jaysen: Yes, you have to butt-hundred it!
Me: Hahahaha! What in the world is butt-hundred?
Jaysen: Look...
My boss will be so proud of me.
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Ketchup
Okay, so I've been busy losing my mind and need to update.
First off- THANK YOU to those who commented on my previous post. Your advice is absolutely invaluable and I love you guys.
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Secondly- I still have readers! *happiez*
I digress. Back to the Outcome.
I was able to hold the Team off on modifying anything just yet. I asked for every possible evaluation I could think of. OT, Speech, academic, and technological. Jaysen's IEP is in December, and I'd like these evals done prior to that, but it is the district, and I'm not holding my breath. This is a big IEP though since it's his re-qualifying one, and also will be dealing with his transition to middle school next year. I do plan on calling a transition meeting in a few months, and I ain't skeered to re-open the IEP if need be.
Regarding some of the frustration Jaysen has been experiencing this year- we did, as a Team, decide to withdraw Jaysen from band. Although I was initially against the idea, it causes Jaysen major stress. If we try it without band, it just could relieve some of the avoidance behaviors he's been exhibiting, but we won't know until we try. On the up side, they replaced band with art, something Jaysen enjoys immensely. So the up side is that he now has art everyday.
I'm also laying down the law (again) with my minion. We are going to read every single night and try to boost his reading skills. Jaysen hates reading because he finds it difficult. We're back to limiting the video games to an hour after school. Jaysen actually gets more than this because he's home before I am, but I'm not going to create a situation that will foster lying to me, so I'm just looking at it as a freebie for him. So far, it's been met with some resistance, but I expect that.
And that's really all I know.
On a side note- 6th grade is friggin' tough! I can't believe the amount of homework that comes home every night. It's insane. And frustrating for everyone, not just Jaysen. My math skills topped out in 4th grade. Sad, but pretty true. I can spell the feck out of anything (a-n-y-t-h-i-n-g. See?), but when it comes to finding common denominators....look for them yo' damn self, 'cuz I can't find squat. You need to get 6 cups of sugar into 4 bowls? Eyeball it. You need 10 apples to go into 8 lunches? I guess 2 people need to eat oranges. That's life, people. Suck it up.
(Thank you Sissy, for helping me with Jaysen's math homework!)
There's the update.
Send a math tutor.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
Accommodation vs. Modification
Well, it's happened. The Team is talking about modifying Jaysen's curriculum.
Shit.
I mean, if it's what he needs, of course I am all for it and will support it fully.
But how do we know he needs it?
This is his first year being mainstreamed, due to technicalities of the district...
Their response to me was that he bombed his econ test. Okay...well he's also aced some other tests, so....?
I have a meeting next week to discuss it. We're also doing a REED and Hopes and Dreams? The REED (Review of Existing Educational Data) is to determine what evals we would need in his 3rd year re-eval coming in December, based on class reports and standardized tests. Mkay. The Hopes and Dreams? Sounds like a load of fluffy bullshit to me. Let me guess- we're all going to sit around in a kumbaya circle and talk about where we want to see Jaysen a year from now, then 3 years, 5 years, blah blah blah. Oh gawd, make it stop.....
Back to the issue at hand...
I'm pissed off that they just want to modify.
I don't think they've exhausted their efforts beyond a moderate attempt, and even then, it's been more of a "let's see what's on our bag of tricks" approach.
Yes, Jaysen has accommodations.
He has a parapro. He has extended time. He is allowed the option of working in a quieter environment. He is allowed breaks.
So what's the problem?
I'm not convinced that he knows how to use these "resources".
I'm not convinced that he is able to identify when he needs these "resources".
He knows he should take a break when he's upset, but does he know when he needs the break?
Jaysen has self-regulation issues. He misses the "cues" that tell us we are getting worked up, and can seemingly go from 0-60 in no time. Is a break effective, if he's already a 8 on a 1-10 scale?
The real problem???
Jaysen is one of those kids who is all over the board when you talk about function. He's smart, and he's verbal. That combination is usually assumed to be "high functioning", based on presentation. However, his verbal abilities are way above his cognitive ones. You can ask him a question, and he will answer it like he is "supposed to". Ask him to expand, or the same question phrased more open-ended? Omg, are we even having the same conversation? I tried studying with him for a test, the night before he knew NOTHING. He ended up acing the test. ACING it.
The problem is that Jaysen is so "internalized" (I just made that up), meaning that he perseverates, a lot. So much in fact, that I believe that's his main deficit. His perseveration leads to heightened anxiety, not knowing how to deal with that anxiety leads to heightened frustration, frustration leads to refusal, non-compliance, outbursts, or kaboom. He doesn't show outward measurable signs, so FBA's have been ineffective. They can't track what they can't see, and there are no patterns to pick up on. So to them, it looks like "totally random behavior".
Well we all know better than that. Nothing is "totally random". Something is happening, we just aren't able to identify it consistently. But it's not "random".
I'm all over the effing place on this post, no?
Anyway, because they can't identify patterns in Jaysen's behavior, they want to modify his curriculum because he's still getting frustrated and upset. They think a reducing expectations will help that.
I think that's kind of nuts.
You're telling me you can't identify what's upsetting Jaysen, so you are going to assume it's the expectations placed on him. You are also going to assume that reducing these expectations is going to decrease his frustration and raise his willingness to participate in school.
Let me ask you this.
I suck at math. Seriously, that's even exaggerating for me. I am embarrassed at how horrible my math skills are, and I should have been paying more attention in 3rd grade instead of stuffing my bra in the bathroom. But back to the topic....
If you put 20 algebra problems in front of me, and see that I am struggling with them, what can you do?
1- You can reduce the number of problems from 20 to 10.
This is great, if I even knew how to solve for "x" on even ONE problem, but I don't.
2-You can give me more time.
Another great one. I have even more time I have to spend in algebra hell...
3- You can give me a calculator.
Great. That whole "watch I can make it say hell and boobs" joke never gets old.
4- You can break it down and explain it to me in steps.
Now this may work...I have bigger boobs now and don't need to stuff my bra.
5- You can give me basic math facts instead of algebra.
This is a great option if I don't have a strong grasp on basic math and need to back up.
My point is, if you can't identify the problem, how do you know what the solution is? I think they are wanting to jump into "modification" (option 5), before 1-4 are exhausted. Moving from Accommodated to Modified curriculum is a huge deal. It means my son will never graduate with a diploma. It has the potential to affect his life negatively. He will not have the opportunity to attend college. He wants to go to college. He wants to be a teacher. Even if college isn't in the cards, I at least want him to have that option. Options are important, people.
I'm not comfortable that they've shown me he is unable to achieve the minimum required outcomes in the general setting with accommodations. What are those accommodations? That's where identifying the problem comes in.
I'm rambling again.
Because I'm frustrated.
Because Jaysen is *rightfuckingthere* on the fence.
I've asked for the Autism specialist to come in and observe. The Autism consultant is the douchebag from the "shitty school" who had no freaking idea anything about Autism in real life with real kids. But that's where I have to start.
I need help peeps.
I need your opinions, advice, experiences, stories, etc.
I need to know if it's better to not modify but maybe put in a more restrictive environment like up his sp.ed time and increase Resource? Or is it better to modify and keep in gen.ed?
I hate this.
Shit.
I mean, if it's what he needs, of course I am all for it and will support it fully.
But how do we know he needs it?
This is his first year being mainstreamed, due to technicalities of the district...
Their response to me was that he bombed his econ test. Okay...well he's also aced some other tests, so....?
I have a meeting next week to discuss it. We're also doing a REED and Hopes and Dreams? The REED (Review of Existing Educational Data) is to determine what evals we would need in his 3rd year re-eval coming in December, based on class reports and standardized tests. Mkay. The Hopes and Dreams? Sounds like a load of fluffy bullshit to me. Let me guess- we're all going to sit around in a kumbaya circle and talk about where we want to see Jaysen a year from now, then 3 years, 5 years, blah blah blah. Oh gawd, make it stop.....
Back to the issue at hand...
I'm pissed off that they just want to modify.
I don't think they've exhausted their efforts beyond a moderate attempt, and even then, it's been more of a "let's see what's on our bag of tricks" approach.
Yes, Jaysen has accommodations.
He has a parapro. He has extended time. He is allowed the option of working in a quieter environment. He is allowed breaks.
So what's the problem?
I'm not convinced that he knows how to use these "resources".
I'm not convinced that he is able to identify when he needs these "resources".
He knows he should take a break when he's upset, but does he know when he needs the break?
Jaysen has self-regulation issues. He misses the "cues" that tell us we are getting worked up, and can seemingly go from 0-60 in no time. Is a break effective, if he's already a 8 on a 1-10 scale?
The real problem???
Jaysen is one of those kids who is all over the board when you talk about function. He's smart, and he's verbal. That combination is usually assumed to be "high functioning", based on presentation. However, his verbal abilities are way above his cognitive ones. You can ask him a question, and he will answer it like he is "supposed to". Ask him to expand, or the same question phrased more open-ended? Omg, are we even having the same conversation? I tried studying with him for a test, the night before he knew NOTHING. He ended up acing the test. ACING it.
The problem is that Jaysen is so "internalized" (I just made that up), meaning that he perseverates, a lot. So much in fact, that I believe that's his main deficit. His perseveration leads to heightened anxiety, not knowing how to deal with that anxiety leads to heightened frustration, frustration leads to refusal, non-compliance, outbursts, or kaboom. He doesn't show outward measurable signs, so FBA's have been ineffective. They can't track what they can't see, and there are no patterns to pick up on. So to them, it looks like "totally random behavior".
Well we all know better than that. Nothing is "totally random". Something is happening, we just aren't able to identify it consistently. But it's not "random".
I'm all over the effing place on this post, no?
Anyway, because they can't identify patterns in Jaysen's behavior, they want to modify his curriculum because he's still getting frustrated and upset. They think a reducing expectations will help that.
I think that's kind of nuts.
You're telling me you can't identify what's upsetting Jaysen, so you are going to assume it's the expectations placed on him. You are also going to assume that reducing these expectations is going to decrease his frustration and raise his willingness to participate in school.
Let me ask you this.
I suck at math. Seriously, that's even exaggerating for me. I am embarrassed at how horrible my math skills are, and I should have been paying more attention in 3rd grade instead of stuffing my bra in the bathroom. But back to the topic....
If you put 20 algebra problems in front of me, and see that I am struggling with them, what can you do?
1- You can reduce the number of problems from 20 to 10.
This is great, if I even knew how to solve for "x" on even ONE problem, but I don't.
2-You can give me more time.
Another great one. I have even more time I have to spend in algebra hell...
3- You can give me a calculator.
Great. That whole "watch I can make it say hell and boobs" joke never gets old.
4- You can break it down and explain it to me in steps.
Now this may work...I have bigger boobs now and don't need to stuff my bra.
5- You can give me basic math facts instead of algebra.
This is a great option if I don't have a strong grasp on basic math and need to back up.
My point is, if you can't identify the problem, how do you know what the solution is? I think they are wanting to jump into "modification" (option 5), before 1-4 are exhausted. Moving from Accommodated to Modified curriculum is a huge deal. It means my son will never graduate with a diploma. It has the potential to affect his life negatively. He will not have the opportunity to attend college. He wants to go to college. He wants to be a teacher. Even if college isn't in the cards, I at least want him to have that option. Options are important, people.
I'm not comfortable that they've shown me he is unable to achieve the minimum required outcomes in the general setting with accommodations. What are those accommodations? That's where identifying the problem comes in.
I'm rambling again.
Because I'm frustrated.
Because Jaysen is *rightfuckingthere* on the fence.
I've asked for the Autism specialist to come in and observe. The Autism consultant is the douchebag from the "shitty school" who had no freaking idea anything about Autism in real life with real kids. But that's where I have to start.
I need help peeps.
I need your opinions, advice, experiences, stories, etc.
I need to know if it's better to not modify but maybe put in a more restrictive environment like up his sp.ed time and increase Resource? Or is it better to modify and keep in gen.ed?
I hate this.
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Little blessings bring big hopes
Omg. Sixth grade.
Crap.
*ring ring*
Caller ID says Jaysen's school
Shiiiiiiit.
Me: Hello?
Person: Hi Jaysen's mom. My name is blah blah...I'm...
*tuning out because this is probably about transportation reminder bs*
I'm Jaysen's teacher....
Me: Wait....whaaaaaat? Teacher? I'm sorry, I thought his teacher was Ms. E?
Teacher: Yes, Ms. E is his Resource Room teacher. I'm his homeroom teacher.
(pause)
Me: Ohhh.....this is his general ed teacher! Calling me? For.... Wait, who are you again? I'm sorry...
Teacher: Ms. Y. I was wondering if you and Jaysen would like to come in to meet me and see the classroom.
(Um....his gen ed teacher is calling us in for a pre-meeting? Proactive! and Sweeeet!)
Me: Yes, yes, yes...we will be there next week, awesome yay!
Teacher: Great! I know how important it is to Jaysen, and also to ease your mind. I have a son on the Spectrum too.
Me: *gasp* Oh, so you "get" it.
Teacher: *chuckles* Yes, I "get" it.
....Wow.
And so it begins.
The first year my son may actually be mainstreamed for real.
I'm a mix of excited, nervous, and proud.
Crap.
*ring ring*
Caller ID says Jaysen's school
Shiiiiiiit.
Me: Hello?
Person: Hi Jaysen's mom. My name is blah blah...I'm...
*tuning out because this is probably about transportation reminder bs*
I'm Jaysen's teacher....
Me: Wait....whaaaaaat? Teacher? I'm sorry, I thought his teacher was Ms. E?
Teacher: Yes, Ms. E is his Resource Room teacher. I'm his homeroom teacher.
(pause)
Me: Ohhh.....this is his general ed teacher! Calling me? For.... Wait, who are you again? I'm sorry...
Teacher: Ms. Y. I was wondering if you and Jaysen would like to come in to meet me and see the classroom.
(Um....his gen ed teacher is calling us in for a pre-meeting? Proactive! and Sweeeet!)
Me: Yes, yes, yes...we will be there next week, awesome yay!
Teacher: Great! I know how important it is to Jaysen, and also to ease your mind. I have a son on the Spectrum too.
Me: *gasp* Oh, so you "get" it.
Teacher: *chuckles* Yes, I "get" it.
....Wow.
And so it begins.
The first year my son may actually be mainstreamed for real.
I'm a mix of excited, nervous, and proud.
Monday, June 4, 2012
Like a rawkstar.
Not to toot his own horn (heh)
But compare Jaysen's 2 concerts he had this year and check this out...
But compare Jaysen's 2 concerts he had this year and check this out...
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| Spring concert |
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| Summer concert |
Aside from the spiffy haircut...
Do you see it?
Look again.
That's my boy, sittin' first chair.
Rawk.
Thursday, March 8, 2012
This is how you rock a first concert.
Jaysen had his first school concert.
I can't even describe how freakin' proud I am of this kid...
So there it is, folks.
The big update you've all been waiting for.
Be still my beating heart.
Hang in there, and keep checking in~ I'll be back.
xoxoxo
I can't even describe how freakin' proud I am of this kid...
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| Hey! Stop texting....we gots to go! Oh wait...do those boots look familiar? ;) |
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| Excited! |
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| Practicing... |
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| (Notice the gray blur in the back. That's the evil ex-principal from the shitty school) |
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| Hey- where's Waldo? (Back row, right, blonde kid) |
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| Ah! There he is! *proud* |
I have no idea if the video will work, but I had to try.
So there it is, folks.
The big update you've all been waiting for.
Be still my beating heart.
Hang in there, and keep checking in~ I'll be back.
xoxoxo
Thursday, October 20, 2011
More cowbell.
I was just prepping to write about the less-than-fabulous year we are having at this new school this year, but then everything took a turn and it seems things are magically working themselves out. Hmm. Kind of tweaks me out when things just fall into place like that.
I find out that my son doesn't really have a teacher.
Sure, he has a teacher....but only for fire drills.
Whaaaaa.....
Okay, well his homeroom teacher is only for fire drills.
Somebody better start 'splaining....
Turns out that he really doesn't have a homeroom teacher for all intents and purposes.
Jaysen requires significant support in reading comprehension and math.
Due to scheduling conflicts (yeah...I know), he is in the Resource Room for this support, while the other kids in his "class" are in their homeroom learning these subjects.
He is, however, in GenEd for Social Studies, Science, and everything else.
Okay...I will stop clenching my teeth.
And now for The Good.
Jaysen has been having difficulty with the viola.
He's doing very well with the classwork (got an A on his first test), begrudgingly practices, and has never once complained about lugging that thing to and from school.
He just can't "get" the mechanics of it.
So.
I suggested he be allowed to switch, because the drive and interest is there- he wants to play something, and is open to suggestion. He wanted to play trombone. I talked him into maybe trying trumpet first. He agreed.
After some minor friction with the Team about allowing him to change from orchestra to band, we just had a trial with the band teacher.
The trumpet and cornet were very difficult for Jaysen. Think blowing-the-ass-out-of-your-pants difficult. The teacher left the room and came back with a different instrument. He noted that Jaysen had more instant success with this one, and if he were to recommend an instrument, this would be it.
After the hysterical laughter subsided....he looks kinda good with that, doesn't he? And I'd imagine the sheer size and weight may have a grounding affect for him. Interesting.
He will need private lessons for a bit to catch up with the rest of the class, but it's all kinds of awesome.
I find out that my son doesn't really have a teacher.
Sure, he has a teacher....but only for fire drills.
Whaaaaa.....
Okay, well his homeroom teacher is only for fire drills.
Somebody better start 'splaining....
Turns out that he really doesn't have a homeroom teacher for all intents and purposes.
Jaysen requires significant support in reading comprehension and math.
Due to scheduling conflicts (yeah...I know), he is in the Resource Room for this support, while the other kids in his "class" are in their homeroom learning these subjects.
He is, however, in GenEd for Social Studies, Science, and everything else.
Okay...I will stop clenching my teeth.
And now for The Good.
Jaysen has been having difficulty with the viola.
He's doing very well with the classwork (got an A on his first test), begrudgingly practices, and has never once complained about lugging that thing to and from school.
He just can't "get" the mechanics of it.
So.
I suggested he be allowed to switch, because the drive and interest is there- he wants to play something, and is open to suggestion. He wanted to play trombone. I talked him into maybe trying trumpet first. He agreed.
After some minor friction with the Team about allowing him to change from orchestra to band, we just had a trial with the band teacher.
The trumpet and cornet were very difficult for Jaysen. Think blowing-the-ass-out-of-your-pants difficult. The teacher left the room and came back with a different instrument. He noted that Jaysen had more instant success with this one, and if he were to recommend an instrument, this would be it.
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| Ladies and Gentlemen...The Baritone. |
He will need private lessons for a bit to catch up with the rest of the class, but it's all kinds of awesome.
Friday, September 30, 2011
This *is* what's happening, hawtstuff.
School is in full swing, and the boys are settling in nicely. Rylan at his preschool, and Jaysen in 5th grade.
I still can't believe I have a 5th grader, and my baby will start kindergarten next year.
School is going alright- I am sensing some things happening that I am not in favor of, but we'll see where they go. Jaysen has been moved to the Resource Room for the bigger portion of his day, and I am still not understanding what preempted this move. I mean, they even moved his locker to the RR. Erp? Hmm.
Jaysen's Resource teacher tells me Jaysen has friends, and kids genuinely like him. Jaysen told me yesterday, that kids don't want to play with him at recess. We talked a little about interests, and his BFF is very sporty and prefers to play soccer or Basketball at recess. Jaysen does not. Jaysen would rather run around the playground, scaling the slide, pretending he's Mario, vanquishing Koopas and Goombas. I suggested he approach a group of kids and ask them if he could join them. As soon as those words left my mouth, that horrifying feeling of rejection came flooding back to me. How many times as a kid, did I ask others if I could join them on the playground, only to be met with a "no"? Ohmigawd, that sucked. It forced me into a shell of insecurity and extreme diffidence, that I never really fully recovered from. I tried to quickly lay out another option of finding a kid that also looks alone, and asking that kid to play. He liked that idea too.
Also? He really likes viola. He's doing pretty well in the class- except they keep losing his shoulder pad... but he just took a test on the parts of the viola, and he rocked it at home. We'll see how he did in school under pressure. Haha. But really, it's been almost a month, and he hasn't even complained once about the viola. Not even about carrying it to and from school. Am impressed. :) Especially since I can't help him at all. I was not an orchestra student and know nothing about any string instruments. He liked to play with my old clarinet when I had it, so why did he choose the viola? Because the person who demonstrated the viola, played the Mario Theme song on it. Cheater. That is such a bitch move to sucker kids into the viola. It's brilliant.
In other news...
Jaysen has already made the announcement that today is the last day of September, which brings us to October, which means his birthday will be a mere 15 days away.
Can't argue that excitement- this is a big one. Double digits, baby!
Okay, well that and he knows he's getting a Nintendo 3DS.
Because I'm a sucker.
The 3DS does not get good reviews, but you cannot break the iron-clad will of my child once he has his heart/mind set to something.
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| The "unboxing" |
BTW, this is his I like this, but I have no idea what the hell I'm doing face.
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| Is it a pillow, or a viola? Hmmm....must investigate. |
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| Oh hey! |
Lots more to share later, munchkins!
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Ready...set...
I have so much updating I need to do- not to mention my blog was hijacked and I couldn't get in...it's a little overwhelming, but I promise I will get there. Pinky Swear.
But first-
You all know what today is, right?
Did you really think Jaysen was going to start 5th grade without my annual
First Day of School Freakout?!?
Hahaha....no...you know me better than that!
I am realizing, though, that The Freakouts are happening for a shorter period of time, so that's improvement...
We met the Resource Room teacher and he seems Awesome. I'm very excited that he remembered Jaysen from ESY, and said they worked well together. He also is kind of "tech-y", and is willing to help and encourage Jaysen's interest with basic computer-stuffs. Double bonus there. His Super-Awesome Resource Room teacher from The Awesome School is now his guidance counselor, so we also have that going for us. It really looks like his year is going to start off with the right supports. There's a couple of craperiffic things going on this year too, such as the horrible principal from the Bad School is now his assistant principal, and his parapro seems kind of clueless, but I'm hoping neither of those will be issues this year. Om...
Jaysen was totally excited to start school today.
This is pretty huge, since for one, said child is getting bigger, with all new "big kid" responsibilities, such as *ahem* deodorant usage and the like, but also changes in our district, have now made him an "upper elementary" student. Ooh-la-la! This means a total change.
New school, new teachers, new schedules, new kids, new curriculum, and holy shit LOCKERS....it's just a whole buncha NEW. We don't usually do Teh New. But Jaysen was excited, and that's always a bonus. Except this year he didn't make me wait for the bus 45 minutes early. Yay!
Here's what I think helped his new routine:
But first-
You all know what today is, right?
Did you really think Jaysen was going to start 5th grade without my annual
First Day of School Freakout?!?
Hahaha....no...you know me better than that!
I am realizing, though, that The Freakouts are happening for a shorter period of time, so that's improvement...
We met the Resource Room teacher and he seems Awesome. I'm very excited that he remembered Jaysen from ESY, and said they worked well together. He also is kind of "tech-y", and is willing to help and encourage Jaysen's interest with basic computer-stuffs. Double bonus there. His Super-Awesome Resource Room teacher from The Awesome School is now his guidance counselor, so we also have that going for us. It really looks like his year is going to start off with the right supports. There's a couple of craperiffic things going on this year too, such as the horrible principal from the Bad School is now his assistant principal, and his parapro seems kind of clueless, but I'm hoping neither of those will be issues this year. Om...
Jaysen was totally excited to start school today.
This is pretty huge, since for one, said child is getting bigger, with all new "big kid" responsibilities, such as *ahem* deodorant usage and the like, but also changes in our district, have now made him an "upper elementary" student. Ooh-la-la! This means a total change.
New school, new teachers, new schedules, new kids, new curriculum, and holy shit LOCKERS....it's just a whole buncha NEW. We don't usually do Teh New. But Jaysen was excited, and that's always a bonus. Except this year he didn't make me wait for the bus 45 minutes early. Yay!
Here's what I think helped his new routine:
Awesome idea: Morning routine written on mirror with a dry erase marker. This way, he checks off the steps that need to be carried out to make a new morning routine.
Smooooth, like buttah.
Really, Mom....the camera? I'm just brushing my hair.
Give it a rest, yo.
Ta-da! All ready for the First Day of School! Yes, I tucked in the offending pockets.
Also, need to work on the striking a pose. Lookout Village People.
And here's what I think helped me:
Cheers.
Thursday, April 21, 2011
And history repeats itself.
I'm starting to think The Universe is against me. Seriously.
What's that line...the Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away?
Indian-giver.
If you've followed this blog for awhile-
a) you are undoubtedly super amazingly COOL and b) you will remember that we did not get Jaysen into a fantabulous school without a fight.
A fight that cost him years of education, set him back socially, and shattered my trust and faith in humanity.
A fight I am afraid I am going to have to embark on yet again.
I don't know if I have the strength to do this.
I received a call from V, the supervisor of Special Education.
She informed me via phone message, that it's okay Jaysen follow through with the good school for upper elementary for 5th and 6th grade, but for middle and high school, she says he has to get back on track with our "home" schools.
Hmm. Let's think about that for a minute.
My son was put through so much hell at one school, that you yourself- the supervisor of Special Education- said it was despicable, and he should not be subjected to that treatment. You were there when my son was isolated from his peers and an appropriate education for over 4 months. You were there when the teacher got the parents to rally- calling him a "monster", said he should be in a separate class, not allowed around other kids, and when were their kids going to get "special attention" like him? You were there when the principal blatently lied about her actions, and violated multiple ethical and legal avenues. You even had to reign her in.
You were also the one who toured the other schools with us. You were the one who said the school we toured (Jaysen's current school), would be a much more accepting and encouraging environment. You gushed on and on how this would be a productive and successful environment for him. That he would flourish. And he is.
So it's kind of beyond me, why he is being transferred back to the school system that was horrible to him.
And the kicker?
The shit-eating principal from the crappy school? Is at the middle school you want him in.
There is something really feckered up about that.
What's that line...the Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away?
Indian-giver.
If you've followed this blog for awhile-
a) you are undoubtedly super amazingly COOL and b) you will remember that we did not get Jaysen into a fantabulous school without a fight.
A fight that cost him years of education, set him back socially, and shattered my trust and faith in humanity.
A fight I am afraid I am going to have to embark on yet again.
I don't know if I have the strength to do this.
I received a call from V, the supervisor of Special Education.
She informed me via phone message, that it's okay Jaysen follow through with the good school for upper elementary for 5th and 6th grade, but for middle and high school, she says he has to get back on track with our "home" schools.
Hmm. Let's think about that for a minute.
My son was put through so much hell at one school, that you yourself- the supervisor of Special Education- said it was despicable, and he should not be subjected to that treatment. You were there when my son was isolated from his peers and an appropriate education for over 4 months. You were there when the teacher got the parents to rally- calling him a "monster", said he should be in a separate class, not allowed around other kids, and when were their kids going to get "special attention" like him? You were there when the principal blatently lied about her actions, and violated multiple ethical and legal avenues. You even had to reign her in.
You were also the one who toured the other schools with us. You were the one who said the school we toured (Jaysen's current school), would be a much more accepting and encouraging environment. You gushed on and on how this would be a productive and successful environment for him. That he would flourish. And he is.
So it's kind of beyond me, why he is being transferred back to the school system that was horrible to him.
And the kicker?
The shit-eating principal from the crappy school? Is at the middle school you want him in.
There is something really feckered up about that.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
When the minutes drag...
Am absolutely holding my breath.
Jaysen's IEP is on Tuesday. Or at least the conclusion is.
We began the IEP some time ago, but due to unforeseen tweakiness from the Awesome School, it will be continued on Tuesday.
The school social worker met with me today to see how things were going, and also to let me in on the inside scoop.
There have been a lot of changes at the school. I understand this.
But I also feel the "new" resource room teacher is ill-equipped to deal with my child, as well as his Gen.Ed teacher.
Don't get me wrong...these ladies intentions are pure.
Especially Gen.Ed. She is a doll, with a heart of gold.
But that doesn't make her the right teacher for my child.
Not saying she's the wrong teacher...oh for everlovin' gummi bears, the woman is a granola girl.
Everything is peace and love and why-can't-we-all-get-a-long *puppydog eyes*???
Oy.
Anyway, I was very displeased at the disorganization at the last meeting, and the SW assured me that everyone will be prepared. She also gave the impression that she agreed with my insights, and advised me to "stay on top of things" because this disorganization is just the start.
Contrary to the reports I have gotten, Jaysen has apparently been a little shit. And they have pulled his para (since re-instated), and it looks like everyone forgot how to fill out a proper ABC chart.
Double oy.
I just want the freakin' IEP signed, sealed, and delivered.
Then I will be able to sleep at night.
In the meantime, Jaysen will be starting tutoring in math and reading, as well as piano lessons.
Um...you can stop laughing.
Srsly.
I will make him practice at your haus.
More later, gators!
Jaysen's IEP is on Tuesday. Or at least the conclusion is.
We began the IEP some time ago, but due to unforeseen tweakiness from the Awesome School, it will be continued on Tuesday.
The school social worker met with me today to see how things were going, and also to let me in on the inside scoop.
There have been a lot of changes at the school. I understand this.
But I also feel the "new" resource room teacher is ill-equipped to deal with my child, as well as his Gen.Ed teacher.
Don't get me wrong...these ladies intentions are pure.
Especially Gen.Ed. She is a doll, with a heart of gold.
But that doesn't make her the right teacher for my child.
Not saying she's the wrong teacher...oh for everlovin' gummi bears, the woman is a granola girl.
Everything is peace and love and why-can't-we-all-get-a-long *puppydog eyes*???
Oy.
Anyway, I was very displeased at the disorganization at the last meeting, and the SW assured me that everyone will be prepared. She also gave the impression that she agreed with my insights, and advised me to "stay on top of things" because this disorganization is just the start.
Contrary to the reports I have gotten, Jaysen has apparently been a little shit. And they have pulled his para (since re-instated), and it looks like everyone forgot how to fill out a proper ABC chart.
Double oy.
I just want the freakin' IEP signed, sealed, and delivered.
Then I will be able to sleep at night.
In the meantime, Jaysen will be starting tutoring in math and reading, as well as piano lessons.
Um...you can stop laughing.
Srsly.
I will make him practice at your haus.
More later, gators!
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Oh Em Gee.
I know I've gushed on and on about The Awesome School Jaysen is currently in. Even (half) joked about wanting his I-Team to follow him through college.
Just received the Best.News.Evar as it relates to school.
I was fretting because after school tweaking around with budgeting, this is Jaysen's last year at The Awesome School. This year has been such a success, I really just wanted onemoreyear, just to have that positive experience. Alas, the school only goes up to 4th grade now. Which makes this a transition year. We all know how much we lurve transitions.... Since the next transition is to upper elementary for grades 5 and 6, it makes the whole upper elementary school experience a whole transitional clusterfeck. Nerves...worry...anxiety...gaping chasm in the ground swallowing me up.....
But!
I received a personal phone call from Jaysen's Resource Room teacher. Y'know the one who digs my kid for who he is, appreciates him, encourages him, and has faith in him? Also doesn't put up with his crap? Yes, the magical faerie-like teacher whom I probably owe my life to...okay, well at least my sanity...
Well, she called to let me know that she accepted a job as a counselor....at the upper elementary school! Uh...did I hear that correctly? Jaysen's not losing his Team, he's actually gaining them for another 2 years! Whoot! She also confirmed that we will need V, the sp.ed district head to attend Jaysen's transition IEP meeting, to ensure he follows the kids he is with now (as we are not at our home school).
Seriously peeps, I almost collapsed.
She's going to be a fabulous counselor. I honestly can't think of anyone better for such a job. Srsly, she already does that a good portion of the time.
So Yay! Congrats, magical faerie-teacher!
Spread your glitter and cupcakes all over the upper elementary!
You will be awesome and rawk it like you always do!
And yay for 2 more years of success!
Just received the Best.News.Evar as it relates to school.
I was fretting because after school tweaking around with budgeting, this is Jaysen's last year at The Awesome School. This year has been such a success, I really just wanted onemoreyear, just to have that positive experience. Alas, the school only goes up to 4th grade now. Which makes this a transition year. We all know how much we lurve transitions.... Since the next transition is to upper elementary for grades 5 and 6, it makes the whole upper elementary school experience a whole transitional clusterfeck. Nerves...worry...anxiety...gaping chasm in the ground swallowing me up.....
But!
I received a personal phone call from Jaysen's Resource Room teacher. Y'know the one who digs my kid for who he is, appreciates him, encourages him, and has faith in him? Also doesn't put up with his crap? Yes, the magical faerie-like teacher whom I probably owe my life to...okay, well at least my sanity...
Well, she called to let me know that she accepted a job as a counselor....at the upper elementary school! Uh...did I hear that correctly? Jaysen's not losing his Team, he's actually gaining them for another 2 years! Whoot! She also confirmed that we will need V, the sp.ed district head to attend Jaysen's transition IEP meeting, to ensure he follows the kids he is with now (as we are not at our home school).
Seriously peeps, I almost collapsed.
She's going to be a fabulous counselor. I honestly can't think of anyone better for such a job. Srsly, she already does that a good portion of the time.
So Yay! Congrats, magical faerie-teacher!
Spread your glitter and cupcakes all over the upper elementary!
You will be awesome and rawk it like you always do!
And yay for 2 more years of success!
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Um...wow.
4th grade is.........AMAZING!
I am happy to report that Jaysen is off to a great start this year- in school, and at home.
His parapro reports that his anxiety/frustration level is way down this year, and when he does have difficulty, he is using strategies to help diffuse himself.
Wow.
At home, I am seeing a happy, social kid, but also a helpful one. I can't even begin to tell you how helpful Jaysen has become. He follows directions with little to no grumbling, and will do things like get himself ready for bed, or get dressed in the morning, without me even having to ask him.
Wow.
He is helping his brother cope when his little 3 year old temper flares. He helps him get ready for bed. He asks his opinion on what movie he would like to watch. He takes turns with him when they play the Wii. He answers Rylan's incessant questioning. He encourages him, and tells him he's doing a good job. He tells him to have a good day when he leaves for pre-school.
Wow.
He's also more accepting of the suckier things in life. Like dentist appointments, homework, taking medication, and bedtime.
Wow.
That is not to say my son is perfect. He is my son, after all...
He still has bouts of frustration. He still gets lippy, and he still doesn't know how to constructively express or deal with certain emotions, but he's actively working on it. And you can see it in his face when he is truly making an effort.
Wow.
He also informed me, "Mom...your little boy is growing up."
Yes, sweetheart......he certainly is.
*sniffle*
I am happy to report that Jaysen is off to a great start this year- in school, and at home.
His parapro reports that his anxiety/frustration level is way down this year, and when he does have difficulty, he is using strategies to help diffuse himself.
Wow.
At home, I am seeing a happy, social kid, but also a helpful one. I can't even begin to tell you how helpful Jaysen has become. He follows directions with little to no grumbling, and will do things like get himself ready for bed, or get dressed in the morning, without me even having to ask him.
Wow.
He is helping his brother cope when his little 3 year old temper flares. He helps him get ready for bed. He asks his opinion on what movie he would like to watch. He takes turns with him when they play the Wii. He answers Rylan's incessant questioning. He encourages him, and tells him he's doing a good job. He tells him to have a good day when he leaves for pre-school.
Wow.
He's also more accepting of the suckier things in life. Like dentist appointments, homework, taking medication, and bedtime.
Wow.
That is not to say my son is perfect. He is my son, after all...
He still has bouts of frustration. He still gets lippy, and he still doesn't know how to constructively express or deal with certain emotions, but he's actively working on it. And you can see it in his face when he is truly making an effort.
Wow.
He also informed me, "Mom...your little boy is growing up."
Yes, sweetheart......he certainly is.
*sniffle*
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
First day of school - fourth grade
Dear Fourth Grade,
Why did you sneak up on me and bite my ass at 10pm last night? Didn't you know that all the good school supplies were already gone? That was not very nice of you.
~Momzilla
Why did you sneak up on me and bite my ass at 10pm last night? Didn't you know that all the good school supplies were already gone? That was not very nice of you.
~Momzilla
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Messing with a good thing.
They're trying to make me crazy.
The school district, that is.
Everything revolves around budgeting.
No money here, no funding there...
What to do...what to do...
Let's mess with the schools!
The voted on proposal that passed, was to close 4 elementary schools (that's 1/3 of our elementary schools), make the remaining elementaries K-4, have 2 middle schools for grades 5-6, and 2 more for 7-8.
Does that make any sense?
Apparently to someone it does.
*sidenote - One of the schools that's closing, is the craptastic school that treated Jaysen horribly, so... Karma, biatches! *
Jaysen has been doing so well this year, comparatively. I mean so well.
He's staying in the Gen.Ed class almost all day, and tolerating it. He has friends. He's even in an after school tutoring program one day a week.
This is the first year he's actually going to school every day without a fight.
The new plan for our schools means:
Jaysen will only have one more year at The Awesome School. And it will be a transition year, so focus will be put on transitioning, not the things he's just started to work on this year, like increasing his workload tolerance and academics. Dammit- he really needs that extra year at this school.
So. One more year at The Awesome School.
Then he'll go to middle school for 5th and 6th grade.
After 6th grade, he'll go to a different middle school for 7th and 8th grade.
Then to high school for 9th-12th.
That's 3 transitions. And I'm talking transitions in only the physical location sense. I'm not even counting the internal transitions of "new school", "new teachers, peers, classwork, routines, etc".
This is going to be hell on a kid who doesn't transition well.
As soon he gets into a routine and settled, he's going to have to completely switch schools again.
Fuk.
I need to get my advocacy cape back on.
I know this sounds bizarre, but I'm not even sure what it is exactly that I'm preparing to advocate for!
Has anyone else run into anything like this?
The school district, that is.
Everything revolves around budgeting.
No money here, no funding there...
What to do...what to do...
Let's mess with the schools!
The voted on proposal that passed, was to close 4 elementary schools (that's 1/3 of our elementary schools), make the remaining elementaries K-4, have 2 middle schools for grades 5-6, and 2 more for 7-8.
Does that make any sense?
Apparently to someone it does.
*sidenote - One of the schools that's closing, is the craptastic school that treated Jaysen horribly, so... Karma, biatches! *
Jaysen has been doing so well this year, comparatively. I mean so well.
He's staying in the Gen.Ed class almost all day, and tolerating it. He has friends. He's even in an after school tutoring program one day a week.
This is the first year he's actually going to school every day without a fight.
The new plan for our schools means:
Jaysen will only have one more year at The Awesome School. And it will be a transition year, so focus will be put on transitioning, not the things he's just started to work on this year, like increasing his workload tolerance and academics. Dammit- he really needs that extra year at this school.
So. One more year at The Awesome School.
Then he'll go to middle school for 5th and 6th grade.
After 6th grade, he'll go to a different middle school for 7th and 8th grade.
Then to high school for 9th-12th.
That's 3 transitions. And I'm talking transitions in only the physical location sense. I'm not even counting the internal transitions of "new school", "new teachers, peers, classwork, routines, etc".
This is going to be hell on a kid who doesn't transition well.
As soon he gets into a routine and settled, he's going to have to completely switch schools again.
Fuk.
I need to get my advocacy cape back on.
I know this sounds bizarre, but I'm not even sure what it is exactly that I'm preparing to advocate for!
Has anyone else run into anything like this?
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