Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Booby prize.

Ahhh...the wonders of little boys.
The wonders of developmentally delayed 6 year old little boys.
The wonders of developmentally delayed 6 year old Autistic little boys, who perseverate...
...on the word "boobies".

A few days ago, Jaysen barged in on me taking a bath, to go to the bathroom. This is nothing all too unusual. This time, however, when he finished peeing, he turned around and started to giggle.

"What are you laughing about?"
"Heh heh...boobies."
"Jaysen, get out of the bathroom."
"Heh heh heh...boobies, boobies, boobies."
"Get OUT!"
"Booooo-beeeees!" (running out of the bathroom)

I can only assume he picked this up at school, as I have never referred to them as boobies, they've always been breasts (when you nursed a baby with another one in-home, these things come up).

So now we have the "Boobie Predicament".
Most kids go through this kind of potty talk around age 4 or so. Being that Jaysen is who he is, he finds poop, farts, burps, butts, stinky feet, and now boobies...hysterical.

I tried to ignore it, but this kid doesn't let things go.
He's even doing the "nudge-the-boob-with- the-elbow" trick, except he's less than slick and perseverates while he's attempting it.
I tried to explain that breasts are "private parts" and you cannot touch anyone else's private parts- ever.
I especially tried to drive home the fact that he cannot talk or act like that at school, and I can only hope he gets it. I can just imagine the "suspension for sexual assault" that could result. I need to think of a way to make it hit home that I'm serious- he cannot do this stuff at school.

Last night when I put him to bed?
"Goodnight, Sweetheart."
"Goodnight boobies."
"Jaysen, I don't like you saying that."
"Goodnight boobies, and inna morning, I gonna say 'good morning boobies'."
(For the record, he did not.)



Marla said...

Too funny. Boobies on his mind.

mollyalexis said...

I know it's not supposed to be funny, but it is! I bet it kills you not to crack up! Hopefully he just does it with you and not anyone at school. I was going to say that with Parker, any bad behaviour that I pay a lot of attention too seems to get worse. His behaviorist says that if you ignore it, he isn't getting a reaction and he'll stop. (I am referring to my son touching the cats butt) (rotfl)

Jodi said...

My son went through this developmental stage at 13 and it was SO not funny! (but it was)
He used to give the girls (and guys) swats on the be-hind...I am so glad we are over that stage.

Casdok said...

I had to laugh!! But no its not funny, but it is.
Hope it wears off soon!

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

Wow, substitute "booger" for "boobies" and you have my son. (And as word fixations go, I have to admit I'm pleased with booger -- it's pretty harmless.) Yesterday he told me, "From now one, I'm going to call you Boogerhead." I do prefer Mama, but it's so over the top that it's usually funny to me anyway. Apparently I have the sense of humor of an elementary school student.

lastcrazyhorn said...

Hell, when I was a kid, I was so mortified by the concept of "boobies," that I required everyone around me to refer to them as "mammary glands." Maybe you could tell him those words . . . at least then, no one else would know what he was talking about.

BTW, you should sign up for blogging for autism awareness month: http://momologue.blogspot.com/2008/03/join-me-in-blogging-for-autism.html

Me and Barb both have. :)

Mom to Mr. Handsome said...

Mommy Dearest,

This all sounds so familiar to me. (lol) Gabe has a fondness for my boobs too. His favorite thing to do is to say he's going to squeeze me and then grabs my boob. His "squeezes" are either hugs or he likes to squeeze your arm as a way to say "I luv ya." For me it's the boob sometimes. We talked about private areas and how my boobs do indeed fall in that category. He's gotten better, it's less often, but now when I hug him he sometimes puts his face in between them and shakes his head!
We're getting there, slowly but surely :o)

So gald you stopped by to say Hi at my blog. It does sound like we have a lot in common. I live about an hour from Detroit up by the Palace. Feel free to email me at eterniti1@yahoo.com if you want to chat some more.

Take care,
Kristin (Gabe's mom)

rosee285 said...

You have the humor and strength of 10 Moms..Your blog is beautiful, touching, funny and a blessing to me today.
I am so happy to have been attracted to this group of moms like you. My children are all raised and I was blessed with each one of them. They are healthy, happy, intelligent and independent children, although I think my youngest suffers from some form of generalized anxiety as I do. He handles his issues with alcohol, but under that exterior is the sweetest, kindest most beautiful child ever (22 year old April 1).

You have a wonderful outlook on life and despite the "boobie thing" I think your child is a blessing. They are funny when they come up with those little obsessions. It was always hard for me to keep a straight face with my kids when they said things like that, we laugh about them all the time now. As much as I loved my time with them when they were young, it is so beautiful now, I can't imagine anything else. It is finally time to be their friend. It is all so worth it.
I am happy to join you all with Autism Awareness by opening my blog to it also.
I just wanted to tell you how much i enjoyed yours.
Thank you,

Martie said...

Been there - Last time he picked up a "wierd" word - we just would say a "nice" word everytime he said the "wierd" one. It worked!!! Pretty soon he was saying the word we wanted him to. At least we can say that life is NEVER boring.


Elissa - Managing Autism said...

Glad to see I'm not alone... we're having an issue with "doodles" in our house at the moment - yes, I mean 'penis'! Like you, I'm sure it's something that has been picked up at school, but it's not easy to get him to understand what is and what isn't appropriate!

LAA and Family said...

Oh my! The word of choice for my son right now is "stupid," which he picked up from Charlie Brown videos. We haven't gotten to any body part words yet, but I know the day is coming!

LAA and Family said...

Forgot to add..

It takes some careful redirecting to teach your child without drawing too much attention to the negative word itself!

domesticblister said...

ROFL even though I shouldn't be. My five year old daughter is a big fan of boobies too. My best friend is pretty big chested, and Roo likes to walk up to her, give her a pat on the chest and say "Wow, I like your boobies."
I too did the whole private parts talk, and it totally backfired. The next day, she walked up to another friend of mine, pointed to her crotch from half way across the room and shouted happily "Hey, I like your vagina! It's really cool!" Thankfully, I'm blessed with some very understanding friends.
Thanks for making me laugh today.