Ex came over this weekend to see Jaysen.
First time this year, thankyouverymuch.
Ex is a crappy father.
Despite other people's beliefs that he doesn't love his children- I think he does love them, he just doesn't know how to be a Dad to them.
He has twins (15 years old) from his first marriage, and Jaysen.
Ex sees the twins quite often lately. They're a fun age for him.
They're into the same activities- skateboarding, music, girls, and other teenage stuff.
Jaysen? Not so much "fun" yet.
When Ex and I divorced, he started dating this girl (ironically, we have the same name).
I loved her.
She was sweet, good humored, and most importantly, she really jived with Jaysen.
Needless to say, that relationship didn't last. Which brings me to his current girlfriend of the past 4 years.
Current Girlfriend really can't be bothered by Jaysen. She tolerates and talks to him, but it never seems genuine, and she doesn't really know how to interact with him.
She for sure doesn't "get it".
So. Ex comes over and announces that he's going to be a Dad again.
Oh for the love of unicorn testicles. You have got to be shitting me.
This is a man who cannot take care of the three children he currently has, and he's welcoming baby number 4 into the world?
I put on my happy face and exclaimed the appropriate congratulatory phrases.
Until he spoke again about how this was something that he and Current Girlfriend had discussed, and they wanted to do before she turned thirty in a few years (yes, you read that right)- and how happy, excited, elated (and other fluffy words that made me want to vomit) he was.
I wanted to rip his unshaven face off and run it through my paper shredder.
When I told him I was pregnant with Jaysen- and remember, we were married-
I was met with "Oh my god. Tell me you're joking. Tell me you're fucking joking" head in his hands, the whole bit. Like I was Fat Albert and just sat on his world.
Then, he added, "I have kids already! Tell me you're fucking joking!"
Um...no, asshole, I'm not.
You can imagine how his new found joy made my stomach turn.
He's so icky.
Oh, and... Current Girlfriend is due in October! Jaysen's birthday month.
The shit keeps getting better!
It makes me so mad to think that he saw Jaysen 4 times last year, and what- is it going to be less now? Then again, is that really so bad? Hmm.
Tell ya what though-
I am totally going to be asking for child support now.